Some believe men should lead in marriage and women should be subject to their husbands. Others believe that scripture does not state women should be subject to men. The argument goes like this:
How much Bible evidence can you give for husbands’ authority over wifes, or ruler of homes? To recap, verses telling slaves to obey DO NOT teach that God’s design is for masters to have authority as slave owners, and verses telling women to submit should be read in a similar fashion. If you want to develop a Bible doctrine of male authority being God’s plan from the “women submit” verses, it would be as much a fallacy, as to develop a doctrine of slave owner authority being God’s plan from the teachings to slaves.
I agree that scripture concerning being a good master does not say there should be masters and slaves, but merely regulates that relationship.
However, this same thing can not be said for whether there should be husband and wife. Scripture is clear that woman was made for man.
18Then the LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.” 19Out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the sky, and brought them to the man to see what he would call them; and whatever the man called a living creature, that was its name. 20The man gave names to all the cattle, and to the birds of the sky, and to every beast of the field, but for Adam there was not found a helper suitable for him. 21So the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and he slept; then He took one of his ribs and closed up the flesh at that place. 22The LORD God fashioned into a woman the rib which He had taken from the man, and brought her to the man.
23The man said, “This is now bone of my bones, And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man.”
24 For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.
Further, Scripture tells us that the woman is to be ruled by her husband, because Eve was deceived.
16 To the woman He said, “I will greatly multiply Your pain in childbirth, In pain you will bring forth children ; Yet your desire will be for your husband, And he will rule over you.”
We see this expanded to the idea that a woman should not have authority over men because Eve was deceived – apparently Paul was speaking of authority in spiritual matters, and possibly limited to doctrine or the church environment, depending on one’s understanding of the context.
1 Timothy 2:12-14
12 But I do not allow a woman to teach or exercise authority over a man, but to remain quiet. 13 For it was Adam who was first created, and then Eve. 14And it was not Adam who was deceived, but the woman being deceived, fell into transgression.
Further still, scripture tells us the wife should submit to her husband.
22 Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord.
18 Wives, be subject to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.
1 Corinthians 11:3
3 But I want you to understand that Christ is the head of every man, and the man is the head of a woman, and God is the head of Christ.
Now, I suppose one could still argue that women should not be subject to men, but this would only be true if the church is not subject to Christ. But scripture tell us that the church IS subject to Christ and in the same way, a wife should be subject to her husband.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. 24 But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything.
To summarize, a man is subject to Christ. A wife is subject to her husband. The church together are subject to Christ. So while some might want to claim that men and women are to fulfill similar roles in the home, the Bible is clear that men are to lead and women are subject to their own husbands.