Why do young adults leave Christianity in college?

Someone asked why do I think so many young adults leave Christianity while in college?


  1. It is easier for a camel to go thru the eye of a needle than a rich man to enter the kingdom of God (Matthew 19:24; Mark 10:25; Luke 18:25).
  2. Many are called, but few are chosen (Matthew 22:14).
  3. There are false prophets and false teachers among us (2 Peter 2:1).
  4. At least some who leave do so to show they were never of the church (1 John 2:19).
  5. Some who leave show they are prodigals who will return (Luke 15:11-32).
  6. The disciples had a three year period as adults of living with the Christ and learning from Him before they were sent out into the world to make disciples. Our children (as young adults) only have 2 hours a week (if that) for much of their lives of being taught and few actually are discipled. They dont have sufficient discipleship so they are not prepared for the rigors of facing so much sin and so many attacks on faith from supposedly educated people. They have little or no experience with debate, or even discussion of applying scripture to real life situations. They have little or no training in apologetics.

Church, cliques and tithing

Someone complained they didn’t go to church because the churches are full of cliques they are ot part of and are always trying to get into their wallets.

Yes churches are filled with imperfect people and some have cliques (not all do). Yes some churches focus on tithing. But sometimes we feel convicted and they aren’t focusing on it all the time, we are just extra sensitive to it.

The true church is made up of the people of God. Any given individual church is made up of the people of God and those who are not the people of God – some will become the people of God in the future but are not there yet. God only has imperfect sinners to work with in fulfilling His plan. And its filled with people who can love on us and whom we can love on. Its filled with people who should call us to live holy righteous lives. Its a group of people who will teach us and encourage us and help us. And God’s word says we should not stop gathering together.

Hebrews 10:25 not forsaking our own assembling together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another; and all the more as you see the day drawing near

As for tithing, 10% is the old testament goal (actually I think someone counted up all the offerings and givings and it came out to 23%). In the new testament, we are taught we should give sacrificially and gladly, and God will provide for every good deed.

2 Corinthians 9:6-8
6 Now this I say, he who sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and he who sows bountifully will also reap bountifully. 7 Each one must do just as he has purposed in his heart, not grudgingly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver. 8 And God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that always having all sufficiency in everything, you may have an abundance for every good deed;

The money goes to rent/mortgage, utilities, salary, supporting missionaries, church programs. Pastors spend hours and days preparing sermons and lessons and visiting the sick and imprisoned, counseling people, trying to rescue marriages and help people, etc.

Jesus said the worker is worthy of his pay.

Matthew 10:9-10
9 Do not acquire gold, or silver, or copper for your money belts, 10 or a bag for your journey, or even two coats, or sandals, or a staff; for the worker is worthy of his support.

Paul said the same thing.

1 Timothy 5:17-18
17 The elders who rule well are to be considered worthy of double honor, especially those who work hard at preaching and teaching. 18 For the Scripture says, “You shall not muzzle the ox while he is threshing,” and “The laborer is worthy of his wages.

Its understandable that sometimes its hard to get to church. But God has said we need to gather together with godly people – so its not something we should purposefully avoid. We need to seek godly people to fill our lives and to encourage us and to pray for us and to challenge us and to teach us and exhort us. We also need to give sacrificially.

The age of the earth and appearance of age

Genesis 1 indicated God created certain things in an evening and a morning, which God called a day. In Hebrew, the word translated as ‘day’ is ‘yom’. Every where this word is used in scripture with a number in front of it, it indicates a morning and evening, one day. Here are scriptures to show that God created the universe and the earth and everything in it in six days:

Genesis 1:5

God called the light day, and the darkness He called night. And there was evening and there was morning, one day.

Genesis 1:8

God called the expanse heaven. And there was evening and there was morning, a second day

Genesis 1:13

13 There was evening and there was morning, a third day.

Genesis 1:19

19 There was evening and there was morning, a fourth day.

Genesis 1:23

23 There was evening and there was morning, a fifth day.

Genesis 1:31

31 God saw all that He had made, and behold, it was very good. And there was evening and there was morning, the sixth day.

Exodus 20:9-11

Six days you shall labor and do all your work, 10 but the seventh day is a sabbath of the Lord your God; in it you shall not do any work, you or your son or your daughter, your male or your female servant or your cattle or your sojourner who stays with you. 11 For in six days the Lord made the heavens and the earth, the sea and all that is in them, and rested on the seventh day; therefore the Lord blessed the sabbath day and made it holy.

Exodus 31:16-17

16 So the sons of Israel shall observe the sabbath, to celebrate the sabbath throughout their generations as a perpetual covenant.’ 17 It is a sign between Me and the sons of Israel forever; for in six days the Lord made heaven and earth, but on the seventh day He ceased from labor, and was refreshed.

Some people say that God could not have used six literal days, and that the age of various things show that the universe and earth are older than six to ten thousand years.

Can the radiometric dating methods used to say how old the planet or the universe is be trusted?


To measure the decay of any isotope, there are a number of assumptions:

  1. The assumption is that what is being measured is in a closed system.
  2. The assumption is that the initial known amount of material being measured is known.
  3. The assumption is that no new material being measured was introduced.
  4. The assumption as well as the assumption that no existing material has exited in any way other than decay.

Many variables which are not known to be true in any system.

But even if radiometric dating processes could be trusted, God is capable of creating everything in a way which have a certain level of maturity in order to sustain life.

Maturity does not mean age. A man might appear to be 20 years old, but only in fact be 1 day – not so as to fool anyone, but to be able to sustain his own life – eat, drink, walk, communicate, gather food, protect self from heat/cold, etc.

In the same way, the universe was created with a level of maturity to sustain the galaxies. Our galaxy was created with a level of maturity to sustain solar systems. Our solar system was created with a level of maturity to sustain our planet. Our planet was created with a level of maturity to sustain life. Adam was created with a level of maturity to be able to do what is necessary to be able to ensure his own survival and that of his family.

So even if radiometric dating method could be trusted, God could have created everything in a way which appears old, even though it would not be deceptive, but necessary for sustaining life.

Thanking God in the midst of difficulty

I look at everything that has happened in my family’s lives and recognize that God has allowed so much to happen (even while I recognize that people have made their own choices and those choices have affected them and others).
I know that what man and the enemy meant for evil (or even selfish pleasure), God meant for good (Genesis 50:20).
I know God will use these things for the good of those who love Him and are called according to His purpose (Romans 8:28).
I am comforted by the fact that my family can be comforted by God so they can comfort others with the godly love and comfort they have received (2 Corinthians 1:3-4).
So even in the difficult times, we can easily find ways to be thankful to God and praise Him.
I thank God for what He has done, is doing, and will do in our lives.

Six degrees of separation and consequences to actions/decisions

Ever wonder about why life is so hard? Why does God allow bad things to happen? I’ve been pondering this lately….

Posit: God CAN cause people to make the choice He wants, but that would be a supernatural intervention and while possible, has only rarely been documented to have happened. In most cases, God lets us make choices.

Now, have you considered that there are six degrees of separation between you and anyone else on the planet?

What if that also applies to effect of actions/decisions? What if your action could affect someone on the other side planet because of six degrees of separation?

What if you eat something that gives you gas, and you fart out loud and someone laughs and he is on the phone with someone who didnt know why he laughed and took it personally and told her girlfriend and was convinced by her girlfriend that the guy laughed at her and she cried to her boyfriend who decided to beat the guy up – just because you ate something that gave you gas….

I think we could come up with a scenario where someone on the other side of the world who is within six degrees of separation would be affected by your actions/decision, if we tried hard enough…

My only point is, God uses our choices and actions to move the universe forward in His plan and since we affect those around us, God probably very rarely has to cause a decision to be made, He usually just orchestrates the choices we freely make to bring out His goal…

Why Christians tell people the Gospel….

There are many who want to know why Christians share the Gospel with others. Its really simple. No one other than God knows who will be saved, so we share with everyone.

We need to hear the Word of God to be saved and to grow in respect to salvation (to be sanctified).

Romans 10:8-11
8 But what does it say? “The word is near you, in your mouth and in your heart”—that is, the word of faith which we are preaching, 9 that if you confess with your mouth Jesus as Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved; 10 for with the heart a person believes, resulting in righteousness, and with the mouth he confesses, resulting in salvation. 11 For the Scripture says, “Whoever believes in Him will not be disappointed.”

Romans 10:17 So faith comes from hearing, and hearing by the word of Christ.

1 Peter 2:2 like newborn babies, long for the pure milk of the word, so that by it you may grow in respect to salvation,

Will we recognize our loved ones in heaven?

Someone asked me if her mother would recognize her in heaven, since she was ten when her mother passed away. My immediate response was to ask whether her mother trusted Jesus as her Savior, and she replied, “Yes…”

So I replied, “There is no question that if your mother trusted Christ as her savior, if she trusted that God the Father sent the Son of God to earth to be born, and live a sinless life and suffer and die to pay for our sins and was raised again on the third day, then she is with God the Father in heaven.”

She responded, “If it’s there she is for sure. Will she know me?

This is my response to her question:

Will your mother know you? People definitely know others in heaven.

In 1 Samuel 28:8-17, Certainly King Saul recognized the prophet Samuel when the witch raised him from the dead.

2 Samuel 12:19-23 tells us that King David expected that when he died, he would go to heaven to be with his recently dead infant child.

Luke 9:28-33 and Matthew 17:3-4 tells us of when Jesus was transfigured with Moses and Elijah and they knew each other, and were recognized by Peter.

In the parable of when the Rich man and the poor man died, Abraham, Lazarus, and the rich man all recognized each other (Luke 16:19-31).

Jesus was recognized, by many people, in His glorified body after His resurrection (John 20:16, 20; 21:12; 1 Corinthians 15:4-7). We too will be recognized in ours.

So yes, we will recognize those we know/love – even if its been years since we saw them.

Also, we will not be in pain in heaven – even emotional pain. We know this because we are told in Revelation 21:3-4 that God will wipe away every tear, there will be no more death, mourning, crying, or pain.

We are told that Jesus will give eternal life (and a place in heaven) to those who desire it. But those who do not believe, who do not have a changed heart, will not be in heaven with God (Revelation 21:5-8).

[In fact, we are told that while eternal life is for those who believe, those who do not believe still have the wrath of God upon them (John 3:16-18). But this belief is more than mere intellectual assent, it must include a changed heart to the point where you obey God (john 3:36; James 2:14-20).]

The Apostle Paul taught that we need to repent, turn to God, and have evidence of repentance (Acts 26:20).

So the question you need to ask yourself is – will YOU be in heaven? Will you repent and turn to God through trust in Christ? Will you call Jesus Lord?

If you have done this, or will do this, then yes, you will see your loved one in heaven and you both will recognize each other.

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