Is Some Love Against The Fruit Of The Spirit?

There is someone who has said that love of those people involved in Biblically illicit relationships (such as people involved in homosexual sex, incest, adultery, etc.) does not go against the fruit of the spirit. Let’s look at what the fruit of the spirit and the fruit of flesh (aka sinful nature) are:

Galatians 5:19-23

19 Now the deeds of the flesh are evident, which are: immorality, impurity,sensuality, 20 idolatry, sorcery, enmities , strife, jealousy, outbursts of anger, disputes,dissensions, factions, 21 envying, drunkenness, carousing, and things like these, of which Iforewarn you, just as I have forewarned you, that those who practice suchthings will not inherit the kingdom of God.
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness ,faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.

Note the difference between what we see from our flesh and what we see from the Spirit of God. To understand what immorality is, we need to take a look at its definition (which if you follow this blog, you’ve seen before):

  1. illicit sexual intercourse
    1. adultery, fornication, homosexuality, lesbianism, intercourse with animals etc.  [see Lev 18, Lev 20, Dt 22 ]
    2. sexual intercourse with close relatives; Lev. 18
    3. sexual intercourse with a divorced man or woman; Mk. 10:11,
  2. metaph. the worship of idols
    1. of the defilement of idolatry, as incurred by eating the sacrifices offered to idols

As we can see, immorality relates to any of the sexual sins identified in the Old Testament we should not do. This includes incest, sex outside of marriage, homosexual sex, and bestiality. New Testament verses that relate to this include 1 Corinthians 5:9; 1 Cor 5:10; 1 Cor 5:11; 1 Cor 6:9; Ephesians 5:5; 1 Timothy 1:10; Heb 12:16; Heb 13:4; Revelation 21:8;Re 22:15; Matthew 5:32; Mt 15:19; Mt 19:9; Mark 7:21; John 8:41; Acts 15:20 ; Acts 15:29; Acts 21:25; 1 Corinthians 5:1; 1 Cor 6:13; 1 Cor 6:18; 1 Cor 7:2; 2 Cor 12:21; Galatians 5:19; Ephesians 5:3; Colossians 3:5 ; 1 Thessalonians 4:3; Revelation 2:21; Rev 9:21; Rev 14:8; Rev 17:2; Rev 17:4; Rev 18:3; Rev 19:2 (see the comments on for a discussion on these verses).

Additionally, we see that the fruit of the Spirit includes faithfulness (to the word of God), and self-control. If you choose to sin against God, by going against what He has said you should not do, then you are not being self-controlled, nor are you being faithful.

Let us take a look at how Paul defined love.

1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (see

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Note that love does not delight in evil. This means that love does not like what God has said is bad. God has said that sex outside of marriage, homosexual sex, incest, and bestiality are all sinful. So love would not like those things. However, some homosexuals want to claim that same gender sex is not against the word of God, while some adulterers (and in fact some homosexuals) say that “love” between two consenting adults is what matters. This is, at best, self-delusion, and at worst a lie.

So for someone to be able argue that homosexual love, or adulterous love, or incestuous love, comes from the Spirit of God, because it is love, he would have to prove how that love does not cause someone to sin. However, we see that homosexual sex, adultery, and incest, are immoral, and therefore sin. To attempt to participate in something God has said to not do is rebellion against God. To attempt to do something God has said to not do and in the process getting someone else to sin is causing them to stumble and sin. These are not rejoicing in truth, as 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 states, and are not obeying God, so these are not true love.

While love does have a component of wanting to please the other, this does not mean that just because you want to please someone that you love them. Sometimes the motivation is something more selfish. Sometimes the motivation for pleasing is actually a desire to not have the other person think poorly of you. Sometimes the motivation for pleasing is to not loose what you perceive to be their love for you. Sometimes the motivation for pleasing is that it is what is expected of you. Sometimes the motivation for pleasing is that you want to avoid strife or discord. But these are all selfish reasons for pleasing and are not love.

Even if someone feels strong emotional ‘love’ (of the romantic type) for someone else, this does not mean it is the love God gave a man and a woman who are committed through marriage. If it is anything other than that between a man and a woman who are free and able to marry each other, or who are already married to each others, then it is a counterfeit love. It is not truly love. And if someone wants to disobey God and have sex outside of marriage, it is not love that is driving them, but lust and selfishness. Do not confuse lust with love. Do not confuse selfishness with love. Do not confuse the desire to please someone else with love.

Only that emotion of love that leads to commitment, or that comes from commitment, of two heterosexual opposite gender people is what God intended us to enjoy in the sexual area of life. And even then, only once marriage has occurred. Otherwise, it is selfishness, not love.

So yes, some forms of ‘love’ are not actually love as God defines it. Some forms of love are actually selfishness being expressed in rebellious fashions. Some forms of love are most definitely against the fruit of the Spirit as defined by God.


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