Divorce, leadership, and scripture

Some say that abuse is an acceptable reason to divorce. Yes, there are times when we need to separate to protect ourselves or our children. But God has made it clear if we separate, we should not necessarily divorce. The only biblically acceptable reasons for divorce is adultery by your spouse, or being left by an unbelieving spouse. And even if its acceptable, this does not mean we should pursue it. And it does not mean there are not consequences to it.

Some complain that local churches disqualify people who have been divorced from being an elder/pastor/deacon.

I speak as a man who was divorced before Christ, and divorced with biblical reasons after becoming a Christian. The local church does not disqualify divorced men from being an elder, pastor, or deacon – scripture does. Scripture is clear one must be a one woman man to be an elder (or pastor) or a deacon (1 Timothy 3:2, 1 Timothy 3:12, Titus 1:5-7).

There are three POSSIBLE exceptions a divorced man might be able to be a pastor/elder/deacon: divorce before becoming a Christian (2 Corinthians 5:17), being left by an unbelieving wife (1 Corinthians 7:15), and being cheated on by his wife (Matthew 19:9). But that depends on how one interprets one woman man.

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