Rejecting having sex with your spouse is against what God’s word teaches.

In today’s society, people say that being tired, or not in the mood, or not-interested, or low/no libido, or pick your excuse, are all reasons to deny/deprive our marriage partner from having sex.

But what does God say about it?

1 Corinthians 7:2-9

2 But because of immoralities, each man is to have his own wife, and each woman is to have her own husband. 3 The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. 5 Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer, and come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 6 But this I say by way of concession, not of command. 7 Yet I wish that all men were even as I myself am. However, each man has his own gift from God, one in this manner, and another in that.8 But I say to the unmarried and to widows that it is good for them if they remain even as I. 9 But if they do not have self-control, let them marry; for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

Scripture teaches that one reason we get married is to avoid sexual immorality, so we should have sex with our own spouse.

Scripture does not mention desire or a libido or anything other than being married being a prerequisite to us having sex with our spouse.

Scripture does not teach that we have the ‘right’ to deprive our partner, except to pray, and for an agreed amount of time.

This does not mean you can force yourself upon your spouse. It also does not mean he/she will obey God. But just because your spouse would probably not like it does not mean he/she should be unaware of it. It also doesn’t mean you can’t pray for God to work in your spouse’s heart to obey God and to desire you sexually.

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